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Job Description for a Pastors' Wife

One of the hardest things for a pastor's wife is knowing your assignment. There is no example of a pastor's wife in scripture, nor do you see a job description outlined there.

Confusion often comes when people out there seem to think they know the God-ordained job description for a pastor's wife. This is never based upon scripture, for they won't find any. It's most always based upon their background, stereotypes and personal expectations. To add to the challenge, many will tell pastor's wives what they expect. Or, they will refrain from telling the pastor's wife personally and instead spread the word to others about what  they should be doing. (And are more than likely not doing, and therefore, displeasing them.)

What does the Word of God say?

Here is truth that we know...

The truth is, a pastor's wife is a daughter of God.
The truth is, a pastors' wife is the wife to the pastor.

That's all the definitive truth we know on this subject. So how does it get so mangled and misconstrued in so many instances?

Through people's preferences, and false expectations. 

Beyond the pastor's wife being a daughter of God and wife to the man of God, she is to hear from God personally for her unique assignment.

Who is the pastor's wife to please?

Galatians 1:10 gives us some insight here, not just for the pastor's wife but for all believers.   "I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant." Galatians 1:10

Don't believe the lie when someone says, "I know what you should be doing..."

Or, "I know what you should have done..."

What did God speak to you?

That's your job description.

End of story.


Jennifer C. Valerie said...

Love this. When my hubby accepted his first fulltime assignment he said to me that I should do only what God leads me to do. Currently in this present assignment I am doing alot but only what God has led me to do. It is very freeing.

Deanna Shrodes said...

That's the way it should be Jennifer. Doing a lot is not an issue, the question is, are we doing what God wants us to do? You're right, it is very freeing. Thank you for stopping by and commenting!